In the Space Between

Original air date: Monday, March 07, 2016

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What happens in the space between two people in an interaction? Between several people? In the space between thoughts, breaths, heartbeats, or in the gap between here and there, Spirit is moving, and all things are possible. In between our plans and what actually happens, there is space for magic to transform each moment. Join Malayna and team member, Michele Coles, as they explore pop culture mythology for examples of what can happen when we make the most of the space between.

Malayna’s Show Prep Notes:

Recent thoughts:

Mind the GAP – God Always Present – [Sliding Doors (1998) Gwyneth Paltrow, John Hannah]

Field of All Possibilities – Deepak Chopra in the space between thoughts – Divine Mind

Story from Pacifica Graduate University-  Joe Cambray – Dr.Cambray is a Jungian analyst in Boston and Providence, RI. Provost and Vice-President of Academic Affairs at Pacifica. – Story about the intersection of journeys in a therapy session

Collective Unconscious – from which we are all individual expressions – try to clear our personality and history from the moment and be present to spirit, let it speak through you

Lotus – from Mud to water to blossom – fill the space with Spirit

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown – quote – connection

Daily Word, Lent booklets

Still recovering and learning from an interaction that was the perfect storm of heart, wounds, and different perspectives


The Space Between – Dave Matthews Band (It was released on their 2001 album, Everyday) – video features Jaime Pressly from My Name is Earl and whirling sufi dervishes! In the space between lyrics, I filled in my own feeeeeeeelings.

The Space Between
The tears we cry
Is the laughter keeps us coming back for more
The Space Between
What’s wrong and right
Is where you’ll find me hiding, waiting for you
The Space Between
Your heart and mine
Is the space we’ll fill with time

Interstellar (2014) – Matthew McConaughey, Anne Hathaway, Jessica Chastain

In the near future, Earth has been devastated by drought and famine, causing a scarcity in food and extreme changes in climate. When humanity is facing extinction, a mysterious rip in the space-time continuum is discovered, giving mankind the opportunity to widen its lifespan. A group of explorers must travel beyond our solar system in search of a planet that can sustain life. The crew of the Endurance are required to think bigger and go further than any human in history as they embark on an interstellar voyage into the unknown. Coop, the pilot of the Endurance, must decide between seeing his children again and the future of the human race.

Frequency (2000) – Dennis Quaid, Jim Caviezel, Shawn Doyle

A rare atmospheric phenomenon allows a New York City firefighter to communicate with his son 30 years in the future via HAM radio. The son uses this opportunity to warn the father of his impending death in a warehouse fire, and manages to save his life. However, what he does not realize is that changing history has triggered a new set of tragic events, including the murder of his mother. The two men must now work together, 30 years apart, to find the murderer before he strikes so that they can change history–again.


Between two people, or you and a group, there’s space. Here, we’ll focus on the space between two people. That space between the two is not empty space. Actually, it’s filled with energy which, on a continuum, ranges from warm to cold, soft to hard, relaxed to tense, strong to weak, love to fear, etc. Get it?

The energy reflects you who you are, what you are, and how you are in the moment. This energetic phenomenon is called intersubjectivity and it’s what occurs when two souls meet.

Intersubjectivity is one way to see yourself as a barometer that points to how you “show up” in relationship, to assess the degree of your authenticity, to look at the quality of your interactions – feelings, emotions, physiological sensations – and give you a sense of that “space” between you and the other.

Psychology Today – Abigail Brenner M.D.

“Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.” Rainer Maria Rilke

Rilke’s quote creates a beautiful visual and sums up what a healthy relationship requires—the space to be yourself, first and foremost, the need to maintain your personal integrity, and the deep appreciation that it is the separateness, the distance between you and your partner that really creates the intimacy.

Kripalu by Helen LaKelly Hunt

When two people make the Space Between truly sacred space, that’s when the healing can happen.We were all wounded in relationship. We can heal only in relationship. And it all hinges on what you choose to put into the Space Between.

What the Bleep’s blog -Embrace the unexplained  –  Jeff Kripal

The early-Victorian researchers had it right: They called dreams like the two with which I began “veridical hallucinations,” or hallucinations corresponding to real events.

We are not very good at such paradoxical ways of thinking today. We tend to think of the imagined as imaginary, that is, made up, fanciful. But something else is shining through, at least in these extreme cases. Somehow Twain’s dreaming imagination knew that his brother would be dead in a few weeks—it even knew what kind of bouquet would sit on his brother’s breathless chest. Similarly, the wife’s dream-vision knew that her husband had just been killed and where his body lay. In those events, words like “imagined” and “real,” “inside” and “outside,” “subject” and “object,” “mental” and “material” cease to have much meaning. And yet such words name the most basic structures of our knowing.

Or not knowing.

Both stories are about a kind of traumatic transcendence, a visionary warping of space and time effected by the gravity of intense human suffering. Even these most basic “categories of the understanding,” as Immanuel Kant called them, surrender their reign before the needs of the human heart. Much as Kant argued, these appear to be our own cognitive filters, not some perfect reflection of what is really there, or, dare I add, of what we are really capable.

…we are still afraid of the likelihood that we are every bit as bizarre as the quantum world, and that we possess fantastic capacities that we have allowed ourselves to imagine only in science fiction, fantasy literature, and comic books.

  • Among Jeffrey J. Kripal’s books: Mutants and Mystics: Science Fiction, Superhero Comics, and the Paranormal (Chicago, 2011); Authors of the Impossible: The Paranormal and the Sacred (Chicago, 2010);

About MalaynaDawn

She sees everything in life as a metaphor for spiritual growth, and loves sharing ideas. Author of Echoes Across Time, a spiritual adventure novel, she has written for a variety of positive websites and magazines, and dabbled in many areas of the entertainment industry and online media. Born and raised in the suburbs of Los Angeles, Malayna lived in Sri Lanka for 12 years, learning and writing about the world and its people. Find out what she's learned at!

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